Do you get into a destructive spiral that you can never seem to get out of?
Have you ever worried that you can become ‘too emotional’, or that you react to situations too quickly in ways that you later regret? Has this happened in your relationships, especially with a partner or family? If so, don’t worry – help is on its way! Not only does the rest of the world find this a significant challenge, but there is a straightforward way to change this, which has been demonstrated in decades of research trials to be highly effective. This is Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) was developed in the 1980s to work primarily with couples, but has been found to be effective with individuals and families as well. It is a short term counseling model (8–20 sessions on average) and is the most empirically validated therapeutic modality for couples – which means that, if you follow the process, you and your relationship are likely improve in very significant ways.
Sometimes we learn to respond to situations inaccurately, or perhaps what was right once is no longer right now.
EFT tells us that it is possible to change those responses which are no longer working to our advantage, and replace them with more effective responses and are tailored to our current adult needs.
Our marriage or close romantic relationships can really ‘push our buttons’ i.e. produce a strong emotional response in us that really is about our experiences in the past rather than what is happening now. So perhaps my partner gets angry: if I have experienced anger as a prelude to an attack, I can a frightened child and not feel or act as an adult.
Anyone who has been in a close relationship with another knows only too well how big problems can arise over things that seem simple. Why do we do this? Why do we argue about the same things over and over again without ever getting anywhere? Why do we have to same responses and strategies when we know by now that they don’t work? Why do we play the same old song, do the same old dance, and never get anywhere? This is where EFT can really help couples. It can help you to:
- Solve those issues that constantly plague your relationship
- Address and change patterns of feeling and behaving that don’t work
- Get out of negative cycles
- Analyze how you communicate and teach you more helpful ways to say what you need to each other
- Learn about how each other feels, why they feel it, and how to respond helpfully to it
- Make sense of how you feel, and why
- Start to make real emotional connections
- No longer feel lonely or shut out
- Forgive past emotional injuries and start to heal them
- Create a deep emotional, physical and sexual connection
A Marriage and Family Therapist Can Help
Many couples find it difficult to work through their problems alone. If you and your partner find yourself facing relationship problems such as these, you could greatly benefit from seeing a marriage and family therapist who provides couples counseling. A therapist can help you work through your questions, doubts, and struggles so that you can regain a satisfying relationship.
Your relationship problems do not have to be huge or at a crisis level for a marriage and family therapist to be helpful. Couples counseling is appropriate for any couple who desires to strengthen their relationship.
At the Prescott Relationship Center, we have extensive experience providing relationship therapy to unmarried couples. We take the time to gain a comprehensive understanding of what is happening in your relationship so we can guide you in the right direction. Our desire is to help you resolve current problems and make decisions about the future of the relationship.
We Offer Evidence-Based Couples Counseling Practices
Our approach to couples therapy is grounded in evidence-based counseling practices. All of the couples therapy exercises we use to guide you through treatment have been supported by decades of research studies to improve the relationships of distressed couples. The particular form of treatment we use in our counseling practice is called Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). Emotionally Focused Therapy tends to yield fast results. Couples who are focused and motivated often experience significant improvements in their relationship after 8-10 sessions.
One of the goals of EFT is help couples emotionally bond with one another. We focus on helping you figure out what this looks like in your relationship. We help you and your partner identify patterns of conflict and ways in which you tend to emotionally respond during stress. As therapy progresses, we help you find new ways to accept each other and meet one another’s needs.
Emotionally Focused Therapy used in the context of relationship counseling is highly effective. Research shows that 90% of couples who receive EFT show significant improvements. Emotionally Focused Therapy leads to increased intimacy and higher levels of satisfaction within the overall relationship. We know that EFT works. And we believe it can help your relationship.
Timely Couples Counseling Leads to Lasting Results
Many couples avoid relationship therapy, hoping their problems will just go away. Some unmarried couples put off counseling because they are unsure of their commitment level. Counseling seems like a lot of work when they are unsure if the relationship will last. Other couples think that couples therapy is only for marriage problems and married couples. They aren’t sure if couples therapy is available to them.
We can help in both of these areas. Relationship counseling could be just what you need to determine what you want for the future of your relationship. In addition, we are just as comfortable working with unmarried couples as we are with married couples. Much of the marriage guidance we provide is just as applicable to unmarried couples. And we are also familiar with the unique struggles that come up for those who are cohabitating or not yet married.
We want to help your relationship right now and for years to come. Research tells us that distressed couples who complete EFT are less distressed once they finish, and maintain these results over time.
Contact Us Today
We are dedicated to helping couples transform and strengthen their relationships. If you think we would be a good fit for your needs, please do not hesitate to call us today at 928-273-0027. We are happy to answer any questions you might have about our approach to relationship counseling and how we might help you and your spouse.
If you have any fears or concerns about marriage or couples counseling, we encourage you to read our Frequently Asked Questions page. If you have additional concerns, please don’t hesitate to contact us.
Making an appointment is easy–you can call the Prescott Relationship Center at 928-273-0027. After all, if not now, when?Make sure to ask about our discounts for active duty military, veteran and full-time teachers in need.