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How Long Does Marriage Counseling Take? 

How Long Does Marriage Counseling Take? 

How Long Does Marriage Counseling Take? 

How Long Does Marriage Counseling Take? 

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How Long Does Marriage Counseling Take? 

You’re certainly not alone if you’re wondering how long marriage counseling takes. It’s a question we do hear from time to time.

And, the answer? Not very long, actually. Additionally, many couples achieve relief from arguing in the first phase of the marriage counseling process.

Here, in this blog post, we’ll help you understand the science behind our approach to helping couples and why the length of time couples are in therapy can be short – yet very effective.

A “Brief Model” that Also is the Most Proven and Effective

Here at Prescott Relationship Center, our numbers show that our average number of couples sessions is only eleven. Other statistics indicate couples can achieve results in eight to 20 sessions. Of course, each couple’s journey depends on their individual issues and concerns that bring them to therapy.

All of our therapists are trained in and use Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy, or EFT. Designed as a brief approach, EFT is also:

  • The most effective method of couples counseling, as based on years of study and data collection
  • Based on the science of relationships. Therefore, the approach has been developed and continually refined to get to the “heart” of a couple’s distress and to provide lasting improvement.
  • Research studies find that 70 to 75 percent of couples move from distress to recovery in 10-12 sessions and 90 percent show significant improvement.

Longer Sessions May Shorten How Long Marriage Counseling Takes

At Prescott Relationship Center, our marriage counseling sessions are typically 80 minutes. This may also contribute to the shorter length of time that couples require to resolve their issues and revive their loving bond.

This session length, which is common among therapists who practice EFT, gives us the time to get to the depth of your concerns, to have meaningful conversations and for both of you to feel equally heard and to feel truly understood.

Typically, sessions are scheduled once weekly at the beginning of the therapy process. Many of our therapists provide “homework” to be done between sessions to help couples gain a grasp of the causes of their challenges.

You may wish to decrease the frequency of sessions as your relationship is improving. This helps with budgeting and also gives the two of you a longer time between meetings to practice what you are learning.

The Most Scientific Approach to Helping Couples Heal

There is, in fact, a rich history of the science of love. And, this history is supported by decades of research, which is still ongoing, that validates how and why we seek to bond with one special person.

By incorporating these findings into the EFT model, your Prescott Relationship Center therapist is equipped with a proven road map to help you understand and resolve concerns. You’ll also learn how to take what you have learned to create a continued positive future together.

The science of love helps you understand:

  • The powerful emotional and physical connection that was created when you fell in love and how this bond keeps you close
  • That we are hard-wired to form this important bond with someone special. When you met and fell in love, that connection became vitally important to both of you.
  • When you are upset with each other, patterns form in how you interact when you are distressed. When you both learn to recognize what we call the “negative cycle” of arguing and/or distancing, you can learn to defeat this ”enemy” of your marriage or relationship.

One of the key features of EFT is that many couples, when they come to understand the negative cycle, can experience positive change in the first phase of their work with their therapist. This welcome relief early in the process can be a helpful reminder of the love and caring they shared in better times.

What If Marriage Counseling Wasn’t Helpful in the Past?

It’s unfortunately not that unusual that couples will come to us with stories of how past attempts at couples counseling were not successful. Or worse, they became very discouraged and skeptical that counseling would be a helpful resource for them.

A few things to note: Not every therapist will be a match for every couple. Further, not every therapist has the training and experience to meet a couple’s challenges. We believe there is a definite difference between counselors who say they “also work with couples” and those who specialize in working with couples.

We understand and appreciate your fears about trying therapy again. Our therapists make every effort to help you feel as comfortable as possible, for each of you to feel fully heard and understood and to guide you toward your counseling goals.

To learn more about our counselors, click here.

Some Couples May Need Longer Periods of Help

We also want to assure you that we will be alongside you should your counseling journey take longer. For some couples, situations can be complex and go beyond the “average” number of sessions.

One of the advantages of seeking counseling at Prescott Relationship Center is that our therapists have the opportunity to gain feedback consultation from our clinical director to provide additional help or guidance as necessary. Wise therapists never work in a vacuum: We share in confidence with other professionals to assess how to be of the best possible assistance to our couples.

Getting Started

We encourage you to reach out with any questions. You can also schedule a no-charge 20-minute phone or video call with one of our therapists to discuss any concerns and to get acquainted. You may be able to schedule online as well.

You can reach us at 928-420-8300.