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Marriage Coaching vs. Marriage Counseling: What Are The Differences?

Marriage Coaching vs. Marriage Counseling: What Are The Differences?

Marriage Coaching vs. Marriage Counseling: What Are The Differences?

Marriage Coaching vs. Marriage Counseling: What Are The Differences?

Marriage Coaching vs. Marriage Counseling: What Are The Differences?

It begins with you and your spouse having problems. At some point, you may recognize that these problems are not getting resolved. Seeking outside professional help sounds like a really good idea. But who will you call? Consult your nearest search engine, and you find lots of information on marriage coaching and marriage counseling. Too often, this comparison is discussed like it’s a sporting event.

In reality, it is typically a case-by-case situation. What’s going on in your marriage? What are your goals, and how do they align with the particular style of a coach or counselor? There is no singular way to make this decision until you learn more.

Marriage Coaching vs. Marriage Counseling: What Are The Differences?

Let’s begin with a huge caveat. While their training is different, a coach and counselor can offer skills and benefits that emerge from their background and mindset. This makes it challenging to draw rigid distinctions. That said, there are some general trends when comparing the two practices. 

Counselors 

A counselor is often more than comfortable tackling the issues mentioned below, but you may find them most helpful when identifying root causes for marital strife. Digging into your past is a proven method for understanding your present. It will likely involve negotiating your way through pain and emotion, but it can be the path toward healing. Working with a marriage counselor can help you and your partner:

  • Resolve personal issues
  • Attain clarity as to obstacles and their causes.
  • Get comfortable with speaking directly about fears, doubts, concerns, and resentment.
  • Make your communication styles more compatible and productive 

Coaches 

As you might imagine, a coach will discern and emphasize your strengths while using goal-setting as a path toward reconciliation. This involves focusing on growth, specific advice, and working together toward a better future. Here are a few (of many) common reasons why someone may seek out a marriage coach: 

  • You want to be proactive and hold each other accountable 
  • There’s been a crisis in your marriage (e.g. infidelity), but you want to reconcile and move forward together
  • You want to see a professional, but your spouse is wary of asking for help
  • You agree that help is needed, and you want to focus together on self-improvement

Overlap

The overlap between these two fields is frequently quite considerable. In fact, it’s not unusual for coaches and counselors to employ techniques from each other’s toolbox. Also, so much depends on what the couple brings to their sessions. Needless to say, the problems they want to discuss are usually variations on well-known themes. What no practitioner can initially predict is how the two individuals will choose to approach them.

So, How Do We Choose?

If you are seeking marital help, settling for the first person you find can be tempting. However, if you take a little time, you can better assess the counselor or coach regarding their background, style, and personality. Remember, you will be sitting in a room with this person and your spouse — talking about sensitive topics and issues — with the viability of your marriage on the line. Also, remember that there are practitioners with the skill and training to blend counseling and coaching tactics. 

That’s why I’m inviting you to reach out today. Let’s get you scheduled for a free and confidential consultation. You can learn more about my approach to marriage coaching and discuss how to position you and your spouse to become more skilled at generating solutions and repairing any damage that may have been done.